Daingerfield, TX Divorce Law Firms & Lawyers

The good news is that the marriage is not over until the judge signs a final decree of divorce. So you will make it to ten years.  There's a minimum waiting period after filing a divorce of sixty days after the filing date. Plus you are going to be entitled to your share of the property whether or not you have been married ten years.  If you are asking about military retirement benefits you are entitled to a share after even a short marriage. The ten years gets you the advantage of being paid your portion of husband's retirement directly from DFAS. The ten year mark is also relevant in eligibility for spousal maintenance after the divorce. I recommend you check with the district clerk in your county to see if a divorce has been filed. Yes he needs to have you served or ask you to sign a waiver, but people are sneaky sometimes.  

The first paragraph of the possession order says that the parents can have possession of the child[ren] at all times that they mutually agree.   Accordingly, the parents can follow whatever possession schedule they want.   That said, the Court will require you to have some sort of "standard" possession schedule that you will follow in the event the two of you cannot agree.  Or, you could type of your agreed schedule and ask the judge to approve that.  Regardless, the judge will have to conclude that whatever is in the order is in the best interest of the child[ren], unless the schedule is one agreed to in mediation.

You need a qualified domestic relations order for each plan covered by the federal statutes. The plan administrator may have a form order that can be tracked. This is very detailed work - it would be a good idea to hire a lawyer.