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§ 253. Removal of barriers to remarriage. 1. This section applies only to a marriage solemnized in this state or in any other jurisdiction by a person specified in subdivision one of section eleven of this chapter. 2. Any party to a marriage defined in subdivision one of this section who commences a proceeding to annul the marriage or for a divorce must allege, in his or her verified complaint: (i) that, to the best of his or her knowledge, that he or she has taken or that he or she will take, prior to the entry of final judgment, all steps solely within his or her power to remove any barrier to the defendant's remarriage following the annulment or divorce; or (ii) that the defendant has waived in writing the requirements of this subdivision. 3. No final judgment of annulment or divorce shall thereafter be entered unless the plaintiff shall have filed and served a sworn statement: (i) that, to the best of his or her knowledge, he or she has, prior to the entry of such final judgment, taken all steps solely within his or her power to remove all barriers to the defendant's remarriage following the annulment or divorce; or (ii) that the defendant has waived in writing the requirements of this subdivision. 4. In any action for divorce based on subdivisions five and six of section one hundred seventy of this chapter in which the defendant enters a general appearance and does not contest the requested relief, no final judgment of annulment or divorce shall be entered unless both parties shall have filed and served sworn statements: (i) that he or she has, to the best of his or her knowledge, taken all steps solely within his or her power to remove all barriers to the other party's remarriage following the annulment or divorce; or (ii) that the other party has waived in writing the requirements of this subdivision.

In New York, anything you acquire during a marriage is marital property (unless there is a pre-nuptial agreement that says otherwise) and in the event of a divorce gets split equally between both spouses. If you make mysterious withdrawals in an attempt to take more than your share, that is considered dissipation of marital assets, and if you divorce, your spouse will be entitled to compensation in some form or another.  There may be forensic accountings involved, which can get very expensive. So don't do something you might regret later. 

YES. You are absolutely entitled. There is a statutory formula that takes into account how many years you were married and how many years he was working at that job during the marriage. Your pension share is based on those two variables. It could be worth an enormous amount of money for you, so don't let anyone tell you otherwise.