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There is nothing illegal about it.  There was no agreement without signatures.  She can certainly seek other advise, even from an attorney, and there is nothing unethical about it.  

First you should contact an attorney, they will know how to subpoena records and other information. Do not try to do this alone as the other party is most likely represented by counsel.

The first step in any litigation is making sure the court has jurisdiction over the parties.  The New Jersey Courts will not have jurisdiction over your spouse until she has been in the State of New Jersey for at least one year.  you could file a case for adultery, and make that period less than one year. Until then, you could try DYFS or another state agency, but you cannot file for divorce without being able to prove adultery.  the other side of it is that you cannot be prevented from getting some custody issues resolved prior to the divorce and since they are your children, if you were here in New Jersey, from visiting the children.  Good luck